I know why I like my solitude: there is no drama. I do love my daughter and mother very much, but to lie in the middle while one requests “tell so and so <you name it>” and the other makes the same *request is insane. Both my loved ones have been put on notice that I will not participate.
To my mother, I pled guilty to everything and bid her farewell. To my daughter, I advised her that I have opted out of the middle. There was no “she said <blah blah>” to either party. I simply got phone calls with complaints and *requests. I don’t have a problem listening to the complaints, but I can’t do the *request thing. I only do the **suggest thing. Sure I listen to both sides and note differences of perspective, however, who is telling the truth? The truth lies somewhere in the muddle and I don’t have time to mess with it. It is for them, as adults, to sort their own nonsense. Neither one needs stress which sounds perfectly reasonable, but neither do I.
It was suggested to both parties that they cease speaking to each other. What they do with that suggestion is up to them. I wash my hands of it. Bah! ~ Maggie ~ 12/7/09 @ 10:03 p.m. EST
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