According to Oxford University Press Dictionary:
rule >noun 1 a regulation or principle governing conduct or procedure within a particular sphere. 2 control or government: British rule. 3 a code of practice and discipline for a religious community. 4 (the rule) the normal or customary state of things. 5 a straight strip of rigid material used for measuring; a ruler. 6 a thin printed line or dash. >verb 1 exercise ultimate power over (a people or nation). 2 exert a powerful and restricting influence on. 3 pronounce authoritatively and legally to be the case. 4 make parallel lines on (paper).
-PHRASES as a rule usually, but not always. rule of thumb a broadly accurate guide or principle, based on practice rather than theory. rule out/in exclude (or include) as a possibility. rule the roost be in complete control. run the rule over Brit. examine cursorily.
-ORIGIN Old French reule, from Latin regula 'straight stick'.
What I see here is pure and simple control. We all know right from wrong in the most basic sense. “Do as you will but harm no one in the process.” Therefore, why should another/others dictate to us? I see no reason. If respect is considered a rule, then society sucks.
respect >noun 1 a feeling of admiration for someone because of their qualities or achievements. 2 due regard for the feelings or rights of others. 3 (respects) polite greetings. 4 a particular aspect, point, or detail. >verb 1 feel or have respect for. 2 avoid harming or interfering with. 3 agree to recognize and abide by.
If taking this to the arena of BDSM, talk is had or not and things are done or not. It would depend on the people involved. Should one partner say: I would like to strangle you until you are unconscious so that I can fuck you in that state AND should the other partner agree, that is not a rule. The question was asked as a matter of respect. However, if we take away the asking and the strangling partner knocks out his mate, well then, no respect is had unless the other partner indicated a liking to it. This may be a bizarre example, but what the hell.
Cheating on a partner is not respectful as it can harm the other partner’s feelings. If, however, the partner who wants to sample other finery were to tell his/her partner of such, the telling allows for discussion. Through this discussion, the other partner is given the choice to stay in or leave the relationship. If the partner has already cheated and tells later, again, he/she allows for discussion and freedom to stay in or leave the relationship.
To lay down law and state you cannot do this; that; and the other thing, OR you have to do this; that; and the other thing is too caged.
Are there rules here? You tell me.
The focus of my power can only lie within as I don't have and don't want to have power over another/others. It is for another/others to have power over themselves. However, it is hoped that the power that is gained is understood and not made a power over another/others. That would defeat the purpose of freedom. ~ Arachne ~ Oct 18, 2011 5:04 pm
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