In order to address this matter, I will look at self love and self happiness.
The love of self is most important for if one does not love self, one cannot love another or others with a full heart. Taking this one step further, if love of self is not there, the individual who lacks self-love will look for love from another/others hoping to fill their void. What occurs is a only a temporary fix for their self-love deficit. Like a junkie needing a fix, a person who does not love self will take whatever love is offered to them, but they will not have the capacity to love in return nor sustain what love is bestowed upon them as they understand it not. They accept love strictly for self gratification and nothing more. Therefore, how can one who lacks self-love love another in return? Love cannot be returned as there is little to none for self much less that to give to another/others.
The problematic scenario for the person who lacks self-love is once the love from another/others is removed, the individual lacking self-love will feel a greater void/hurt than the person who experiences a similar removal, but who loves themselves. The difference lies in that the person who loves self feels more whole. Although the person who loves self will miss the company and sharing of their love, their bounce back will be easier. Whereas the person who lacks self-love will feel that a part of them has been taken away. Unfortunately, that is not the case. The part that is now missing was missing at the start. It is possible that feelings of worthlessness will be felt not having self worth in the first place. When you love self, you place a high value on self worth.
Happiness is something that lies within and cannot be obtained from a material object(s) or another/other subject(s). Granted, the presence of a certain object(s) or the presence of a certain subject(s) could please a person, however, the base of the happiness lies not within an object(s) or subject(s) presence. If one had to base their happiness on exterior factors such as material goods or other people it would be dreadful. What if one could not have the same type of income, vehicle, home, vacation, or sneakers as a friend or family member? Should that be a reason for unhappiness? Does money and object/material gain provide a body with joy or happiness? Maybe for time, but then what? What happens when the job is lost, the vehicle is broken down, the home is repossessed, the vacation passed 10 years ago, and the sneakers are hanging from a telephone wire? Well what happens then?
As far as a subject(s) goes, what if your sole happiness depended on another person(s) and that person(s) just up and died or moved away forever? Should you follow in death or move? Would you then not know what happiness lies within the individual called YOU? What if the subject or subjects are miserable? Even if you love them, the misery is not worth your happiness to make them happy is it? Misery does love company. However, you could technically transfer your positively charged happy energy to the negatively charged unhappy individual, but it is up to the receiver to maintain their own happiness. If they love themselves, they will keep themselves happy in a non object and non subject way.
Ah hell, I guess love and happiness tie in like a big pink bow. The only one who will love you and give you the happiness that you deserve is YOU and no one other than YOU. You in turn can share your love and happiness with others. Wee ha! That is amazing. ~ Maggie ~ January 27, 2009 @ 3:45 p.m. EST
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